Cawnbredokay, the basics are:
1 cup self rising corn meal.
1/2 cup flour (normal, ordinary flour. not self rising or any of that)
milk
water
salt
pepper
now, the thing about cornbread isnt whats IN it, its just tricky to prepare. first of all, if you dont have a self rising cornmeal, then you need to use a baking powder. just follow those instructions. it doesnt matter, but the self rising meal makes things easier.
anyway, you mix the meal and flour together with some milk until its kindof a dough. like really thick and kinda dry. you put a little water in to thin it out and make it manageable. its a balance between milk and water, but mostly milk. what you are looking for is a grainy and slightly lumpy mixture. so dont totally mix it all the way, like you would cake or brownie mix.
heat the oven to 450. put a little bit of oil in the pan and stick it in there to heat. the amount needs to be enough to coat the bottom of the pan, but only a thin layer. keep an eye on that sucker, as thats kinda dangerous. just make sure you take it out when its ready (a drop of water will freak out if you drop it in there once its ready)
take the pan out, pour the mix in. as you pour you will notice that the oil is all along the edges. take a spoon and distribute some of that across the top of the batter. it doesnt need to cover it totally, but it should be spread about some.
now stick it back in the oven. its almost IMPOSSIBLE to tell you how long it will take. each oven, each pan, and each blend can change the time. ive had it take ten minutes, and ive had it take fifteen, and sometimes more. just take it out when its a good healthy golden brown. you can use a knife to lift it up and see if the bottom is over-cooking. sometimes ill even flip the whole thing.
it works best if you dont plan on cooking a ton. so a small pan/skillet works best. maybe like 6-9 inches. my grandmother uses a square pan a lot of the time, but its not a steel baking pan. its iron as well. newer equipment wont work nearly as well as a well seasoned one, obviously. and you arent making this to be inches thick. it should only be like an inch or so thick, not like cake. you are basically frying it, and the whole thing should be able to be lifted out as one piece. the whole thing should have a hard and crispy outside. this is one of the trickiest things ive ever had to make in my life. when it works its amazing, but it takes a bit of toying around to figure out just exactly how to do it perfect in a repeatable manner.